One day my soul just opened up
June 6, 2009 by Kristy
” One Day My Soul Just Opened Up “ written by Iyanla Vanzant is a 40 days and 40 nights program of inspiration and motivation that will help you work through problems and improve your emotional and spiritual health. Talk about inspiration. This book will allow you to look at life in a whole different outlook. Alot of us take life for granted. I know a favorite saying that I hear alot and I’m just as guilty as the next ” I’ll do it later “. But guess what? We’re never promised another day. Iyanla Vanzant is the award-winning and bestselling author of Acts of Faith, The Value in the Valley, Faith in the Valley, and In the Meantime. She is also an empowerment specialist, Spiritual Life Counselor, and ordained minister, she lectures and facilitates work shops nationally and with a mission to assist in the empowerment of woman and men everywhere. I just recently started reading this book and people that know me, know that I don’t really get into reading but it’s a really good book. if you have been through a bad relationship, self esteem issues, battled with depression, or even even struggle with an addiction of any kind. I think that you will find that you like reading this book and then start applying it to your life, I think you will be suprised. Everyone has their own problems and some of has issue but don’t want to talk about it. I’m here to tell you from experience, that if you keep it in that it will only get worse. And most of all, It’s so important we don’t take life for granted and start living as this day may be your last!
If your faced with adoption…
May 27, 2009 by Kristy
When the word Adoption is mentioned it can be a touchy subject. Especially when you are a mother who has made that decision. In my other post I have told you all about my son being born prematurely and my separation/divorce. When me and my ex-husband separated I met this guy about 6 months after I knew that I couldn’t ever trust my ex-husband again. I guess I was very gullible at the time and the guy I met could see that as well. But I thought he was a really good guy at first. As time went by I began to see he was anything else but. Not to mention I started learning he had a criminal record. While I was with him and before I learned about his past he already had it planned in his mind that he was planning to get me pregnant. I know some of you have been in relationships and you think that one day they will change or there is something you can do to change them. It’s the other way around. They have to want to change their selves. I can remember the day when I had this deep gut feeling that I was pregnant. So I told him and he got me a pregnancy test. Sure enough the test showed positive and right then and there I kept say over and over Oh God, What am I going to do? Some of you are probably wondering why I wasn’t using protection with this guy. Well when I got pregnant with Austin it was definitely a surprise because the doctor’s had told me I was unable to get pregnant so when I got pregnant with him my ex husband, We were very shocked but very happy. So when I got pregnant with ” my little girl ” and so quickly I couldn’t believe it. I knew I was going to have her regardless but how was I going to raise her with a child with cerebral palsy and still living at my parent’s home needing help already with my son and I knew this guy wasn’t father material with all the problem’s he had.
Shortly after I found out I was pregnant the mental abuse began to get worse and he began physically abuse started . Things began to get better when he went to serve his time in jail then he went to prison. He was away for most of my pregnancy, so I had some time to be able to think and think on my own. It wasn’t until I was about 3 or 4 into my pregnancy until I started thinking that adoption was what I was supposed to do. Trust me, it was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make. I prayed to God and I asked him for His help. I prayed to him and said if this is what I was supposed to do for him to show me signs and guide me to the right family and most of all to give me strength, that I couldn’t do this alone. It was selfish reasons to keep her because I didn’t want to let her go but so many unselfish reasons for me to give her to a loving family that was unable to have a child. So during my pregnancy as time went by I began to feel that adoption was the answer and I also had found a loving family that had been praying for a child for several years because they had tried so many procedures with infertility specialist and was unsuccessful. Even though it was hard to do, one thing that helped me with my decision was knowing that I would be able to stay in contact with her and they send me pictures of her growing up as I’m unable to see her in person as often as I would like to because She lives several states away. So it’s hard on both sides but I don’t regret the decision I made and one day when she is old enough to understand she will know that I am here biological mother and why I made my decision. I know in my heart she will thank me because the family I chose has given and done more for her than I could have ever dreamed of making possible for her. So if you read this and adoption is a decision you’re thinking about I would love to her from you. But when adoption or abortion is a choice a woman has to make, it’s a very touchy subject. But for me at least I know with adoption that innocent child still has a chance at life.
Life as a single mom
May 25, 2009 by Kristy
I know it’s been awhile, but I’m back. You know the saying ” When you have a child, Life and your priorities change as well “. It is so true but I wouldn’t change a thing if I could. Being a single mom isn’t always easy. Especially when you’re trying to work, go to school, but at least I have the advantage of being able to attend school online, but I try to do my work when my little man is at school or after I get him down for the night. A mother’s job doesn’t stop, it’s a 24/7 job. So when I hear people that doesn’t have children or as some guys say ‘ It must be nice to be able to stay at home and not have to go work “. A mother’s job doesn’t ever stop. I know having my son changed my life for the better. He has helped me in more ways than any or he could ever imagine. When I started this blog and writing my post I was beginning to feel better mentally finally after my separation and my divorce. So I started having the ambition to start writing again. Then I started battling depression again, so I didn’t feel like writing. At the time I was thinking, Why? I didn’t feel like writing and I started losing interest once again. At the moment my son and I are living with my parents. It has some advantages but it can be hard and not to mention frustrating, especially when you’re not able to live on your own like I want to. But trust me I’m working on that and doing te best I can and trying to learn as much as I can so I can start my Web Designing and Development home business so we can be on our own again and be able to make it on make it on our own. I try to keep reminding myself that God doesn’t put more on us than we can bare. Although sometimes I’m like Ok, I have had enough and I can’t do it anymore and usually that’s when you start feeling hope, strength, and begin to feel more positive. I know everything is going to workout somehow. I feel it in my heart and with God and My Son in my life I won’t give up. Everything happens for a reason and your past is what has made you the person you are today. What doesn’t break you, will only make you stronger!
Grow your blog or get one
January 8, 2009 by Kristy
Before I launched ~Twisttafate~ I had already looked at quite a few blogs and I didn’t know where to start exactly. Through the process of looking around I learned some benificial tips. Some people blog for a hobby, some of us freelance, and then there are some of us who blog for advertisement. One of my favorites is Char Polanosky’s blog www.essentialkeystrokes.com . She is not only a successful blogger but she knows some great and very helpful tips. I honestly don’t know where I’d be without her. She is a great person and she has been in the business for quite some time now. If you already have a blog and even if you don’t, Wouldn’t it be nice if you could make money from home? You just need to take some time and figure out what suites you best. It’s not an overnight process. And there are certain steps that will help your blog get more traffic. If you’re wanting to do it for fun that’s great too but for some people like myself and a few other successful bloggers that I have had a chance to talk to have taught me that one of the first ential steps to take when you’re wanting to ” Grow Your Blog “. First you have to come up with a domain name. That might not sound important to some people but it is when you use it for a business name and not only that who you are and what you’re blog is going to be about, it represents You! One way to to start profiting from your blog is through Amazon and sign up with Amazon Afilites and you can advertise their books, media, etc. You should also sign up with is Google AdSense too. It isn’t as easy as it sounds, but don’t get discouraged. If you’re new to blogging and interested in learning more contact me and I can give you some pointers along the way! I’m not a pro by any means yet but I’m defintly dedicated to learning as much as I can and I can recommened some great books that will help you along the way. Like I had mentioned in one of my other post I used to like to write and I have always been interested in learning how the whole web development works, So that’s why I’m pursuing school online in Web Development and Design. And in the process blogging has became one of my hobbies and I have grown to love. ( Photo credit ) by www.Scribizzy.com
Happy New Year
January 5, 2009 by Kristy
I hope all of you had a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! It’s 2009, a new year which means new beginnings. A lot of us make resolutions to lose weight, new job, make more money, spending more time with family and friends etc. the list goes on. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first, like me for example. Me and my ex husband separated in December 2005 and since then every Christmas I can’t help but not to think about it. And I will tell you something else. Weither it’s seperation, divorce, a loss of any kind, no matter what it is you might be going through, it takes time for your heart to heal! Growing up I’ve heard from people and even you see it on TV how some people get depressed over the holidays. But now I’m putting myself first and thinking about me and my Son and ” Our Future ” and what is going to make us happy. Being a single mom isn’t easy but at least I know I have nothing holding me back now. Having a blog helps me express my feelings. When I was younger I enjoyed writing but then as time went on I didn’t do it anymore. Now I have the ambition to write again. So now that I’m going to school I have became interested in blogging because I enjoy writing and there are so many advantages . Blogging can either be a hobby, advertisement, or like a journel express your feelings in hope that I too can and will hopefully inspire someone else, and eventually a source of income . So here is to the New Year and new beginnings. I hope the Holiday’s were good to each and everyone of you.
Twisttafate’s Blog
December 20, 2008 by Kristy
~Twisttafate~ is up and going thanks to Char Polanosky with www.EssentialKeystrokes.com . She did a great job and also gave me some great pointers to start off with! I have came across some other great blogs that have turned out to be very successful. Lorelle VanFossen on Wordpress is also another one of my favorite’s. She knows some great blogging tips that can be very beneficial for you and your blog. You may have a home business, or a stay at home mom and you’re not quite seeing the results you thought you would be by now and you’re just not getting the attention from other readers or the traffic you had hoped for. I was told at the beginning and it’s true, that it doesn’t happen over night. When I decided to invest some money in my blog, Char Polanosky helped guide me along the way. It can be overwhelming at the beginning because you’re not sure where to start. But when you actually take the time to get online and check out other blogs such as http://problogger.net which is also one of my favorites and has some insightful tips. If you’re serious about having a successful blog, there are several different ways to get you going. Before I launched ~Twisttafate~ I spoke with several pro bloggers and web developers/designers and I asked them how much they charged to design a blog for me. At first I hesitated, but I’m happy with the choice I made. If you are serious about having a successful blog my first suggestion is for you to put some time aside each week for your blog and try to at least write 2 post a week if not more. Your blog is what you put into it. Talk about what your intrest are or even if you want to write about your personal life and experiences, things you have first hand knowledge about. So if you want to learn more about what it takes to create a successful blog, I recommend that you read Blogging Tips by Lorelle VanFossen. You can also checkout her blog site at http://lorelle.wordpress.com/ .
